My Bit Of Info

I find myself with more "me-time" with the computer these days. So, perhaps I shall put some random recent thoughts down in words.

First of all, listen to Elvis Presley. He is the King for a good reason. He makes me cheery. People may wonder why I have been in such a good mood at work this week. Well, they need not wonder anymore once they realised that his beautiful songs have been flowing from my PC to my ears via my headphones. Yes, I have overhauled some songs again and, this time, loaded his song from my CDs at home to work. My favourite of his is still "And I Love You So". It makes me want to reply, "And I love you too". I have enjoyed Elvis' songs since young but I guess they were not exactly my preferred choice before. Perhaps the age factor has come into play and I have learnt to appreciate them more now.

On a different topic, I would like to give my two cents worth about love. I was glad to know a friend has found a more suitable love partner and is feeling happier with other aspects of life as well. However, through a brief catching-up session with another friend, I sensed unhappiness and frustration there, most likely to do with the lack of being able to get hold of someone. I hesistate to write "get some love" because I feel that this person is probably wishing to just get "someone", not necessarily love, soon.

As much as I disapprove of such things, I really do sympathise. I have also thought of helping out. But, what can I do? In terms of such matters, other people can only assist by trying to enlarge the pool of candidates for one to choose from. Let me mention here that I would dearly love to help but it really does not seem like I am the sort who has much free time to do much of anything. I have thought and thought about it and could not come up with any suitable candidates either.

I do hope people would not rush themselves in such aspects because there is a likelihood that some unsuitable person would suddenly seem to fit the bill in their desparate search. There have been a few near-accidents concerning some friends and during those times, I have tried various approaches from tactfully asking them if this was what they wanted to outrightly telling them that their choice of partner is far from favorable. If I were in such a situation, I would want my friend to do the same... slap me awake to smell the coffee if you must.

When? How long must I wait? How will I know that it is him or her?

These are things I cannot tell you. I doubt anyone but a genuine clairvoyant with crystal balls, tarot cards or whatever they use can tell you. You will know. You will. Don't worry. But don't go dreaming up the symptoms and pretend that it has happened when it hasn't. You may want it so much, you tell yourself that you're in love, it is the right person, the right everything. Of course, if you want to fool yourself, you will doubtlessly succeed. But make sure you let your true friends in on your thoughts so they may clear the haze and break the illusion for you if necessary, then lend a shoulder for you to cry on when it is all over.

I do not intend to pass myself off as an expert. I have had silly crushes as a teenager, and I am still in danger of being attracted to the wrong people even now. But I think I know a little about the difference between attraction, lust, crushes... and what they each feel like. I enjoy watching eye-candies as much as the next person. But, only once have I looked into someone's eyes and have been able to see 'forever'. It is a rather strange feeling. People say that before you die, your whole life (i.e. your past) flashes before your eyes. Well, how about having your future (together) flashing before yours? It probably happened in a nanosecond. It was not a jolt or any of that junk silly romance novels will tell you. It's just a comfortable feeling, a warm feeling of knowing. (OK, so there was a bit of a jolt because I did not expect to see it in those eyes in particular because I know them quite well and have looked into them a fair number of times before.) So I know such things exist.

Well, what happens after seeing 'forever'? You only know you have met the right kind of person for you. (Note: Not "The right person". I do not believe in "The One". There is, of course, more than one person suited to you. Don't believe in such myth.) It does not mean all parameters are set for you. In the example I gave, the situation was not suitable for 'now', let alone 'forever'.

Perhaps I shall see 'forever' again in someone else's eyes. Or, I may see it again in the same pair of eyes as before. May you look out for it yourselves if you have not found it already. Remember, I told you it is not lust or attraction or any romantic thingamajigs.