Be Positive & Happy

We dwell on miserable times in our lives sometimes. It is good if we can find some lessons there and move on to becoming better people. However, if it promotes negativity, it should be stopped with as much effort as possible.

I complain a lot about whatever upsets me at the present, but I rarely feel like bringing up distressing past events. I have a convenient memory perhaps, which allows me to not think about unpleasantness that cannot be amended anymore. "What is the use of crying over split milk?" I often query myself and force myself to turn to positive thoughts.

I do not have excessive willpower or discipline. I find practicing "good" ways of living as hard as the other semi-strong or semi-weak person (*it depends on whether you think the glass is half-full or half-empty). This is not helped by the fact that my memory of events is rather good and I can recollect most things very vividly, and usually with feelings, when something calls them to mind.

Over lunch one day with my usual lunch partner, some topics were being discussed. I do not know what happened but it lead to my telling of my (for the want of a better word) "heartbreak" sometime back. I described how angry and betrayed I felt about it quite normally at first, until my friend insisted that I must have cared a lot to have been as angry and hurt as I was. I cast my mind back to that period in time to ponder this a bit, and seemed to be transported back to the time when all the anger and hurt were still so fresh. Without warning, tears came to my eyes and trickled down my cheeks. I moved back to the present with lightning speed, trying to hide all this from other patrons having lunch.

My friend was understandably shocked and tried to joke to bring back the light mood. She thought that I have not gotten over the affair and said that I should find someone else (the cliche thing to remark in such situations). I laughed, recovering, and assured her I was not living in the past. I merely recalled my pain back then and felt it again, that was all. I am not bitter or avoiding future possibilities because of any bad incidences in the past. Of course, I shall be happy. I plan to make myself so rather than expect someone else to. I admit that I may still bear grudges for people who have made my life difficult, but that hasn't evolved into hate.

Unlike some people, I do not condemn the innocent population for the unfortunate encounter with one. I urge others to think rationally before they do. If some, say, British person were to spit in my face and I turn racist against all British, going as far as to declare war on the UK, it would be illogical! Think about all the other nice British people who I've met and haven't met! Similarly, if I should have grieved due to one man, I am not to turn into a man-hater. Was it not another man who consoled me as I was crying over the unpleasant affair and told me that everything will turn out fine even if we may not see how that is possible in our sorrow?

Good and evil exist. Some rational thinking should too (once emotions are given time to subside). Moreover, we are in control of it all - the good and evil in us, the rational and emotional part of us.

I chose to be positive and happy. I hope you will too! :)

Stay happy! :D